Mind Right Monday: Playing Catch-up

Happy Monday! It’s time for another Mind Right Monday link-up hosted by yours truly, Dani from Ok, Dani and Reese from Reese and Coco. Just make a post that includes 1) your GOALS for the week and 2) what you’re GRATEFUL for, and BOOM You’re Done!! Oh and link up your post at the end… (If your post doesn’t meet those two requirements, it will be deleted)

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Let’s see how I did last week… 
  • Enjoy my first blog conference and get the most from the experience. (DONE)
  • Write a birthday reflection post. (My birthday is Friday) (FAIL)
  • Be happy. (DONE) ‘

Two out of three isn’t bad and even though I didn’t write a post here I did, I did post a nice status on my personal Facebook that I’ll share here:

The older I get the more “simple” my birthdays become, yet somehow each year I’m a little happier than the previous year. I didn’t get to go to a fancy dinner (we had Chipotle) and my iPhone 6 is chilling at FedEx until Monday, but I’m still going to bed with a huge smile on my face. I had an awesome day learning new things and meeting my online friends in person.
My day is ending with Sesame cuddled up next to me because he missed me so much today and tomorrow I get to do it all over again.This week’s goals…

 

This week’s goals are a bit more extensive and I’ll be splitting some of these tasks up over the next few weeks

  • Workout and Meditate (I’m not going to say how many times a week)
  • Add new neck warmer styles and candy corn hats to my Etsy shop
  • Design gift card for Hook Smart
  • Finish 3 out of 5 outstanding Hook Smart orders
  • Brainstorm next post in the Raising an Advocate series (what y’all wanna talk about?)
  • Conference decompressing (organize contacts, follow up with folks, read through notes, etc)
  • Plan out special blog posts for the next few months.
  • Catch-up on grading (I’m sooooo behind *sigh*)
  • Email my advisor for real this time (I’m scared…)
I am grateful for…
  • Being a year older and happier
  • Everything I learned at the conference this weekend
  • All the budding friendships that came from this weekend
  • Schedule flexibility that allows me to do so many of the things that I love
  • My husband’s support
  • My new iPhone 6 (don’t judge me)

What are you grateful for this week? What’s on your weekly agenda?


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Happy Birthday, To Me!

Today is my birthday and I’m spending it at the Type-A Parent Blogger Conference. It’s my first blogger conference and I’m curious to see the similarities and differences between blogger and academic conferences.

My birthday weekend 2013...

My birthday weekend 2013…

I will probably be on Twitter all weekend posting about the conference, but I wanted to get my birthday wish in over here first.

I have two simple wishes:

1. Head over to the Got Questions? post and leave some questions, so I’m not totally lame.

2. Check out the first two posts in the Raising an Advocate series and share them with your friends: Post One and Post Two

That’s not too much to ask is it?

Are any of you at #TypeACon this weekend? Let’s meet up…

Any other birthday people this weekend? What are you doing to celebrate?

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Mind Right Monday: Birthday Time

Happy Monday! It’s time for another Mind Right Monday link-up hosted by yours truly, Dani from Ok, Dani and Reese from Reese and CocoJust make a post that includes 1) your GOALS for the week and 2) what you’re GRATEFUL for, and BOOM You’re Done!! Oh and link up your post at the end… (If your post doesn’t meet those two requirements, it will be deleted)
Let’s see how I did last week… 
  • Write a “honesty hour” post (journal/blog) about my writing slump. (FAIL)
  • Email my advisor even if I don’t write anything because I need help. (FAIL, noticing a trend)
  • Work out three times a week. (DONE)
  • Try out my new meditation dvd. (DONE)
  • Finish the next post in the Raising an Advocate series. (DONE, go read it)
  • Work on Hook Smart items for Type-A Conference. (DONE)
  • Menu plan for two weeks. (HALF DONE)
  • Clean our bedroom (it’s a DISASTER) (FAIL)

This week’s goals…

  • Enjoy my first blog conference and get the most from the experience
  • Write a birthday reflection post. (My birthday is Friday)
  • Be happy.
I am grateful for…
  • Our new desktop computer it’s really going to change my life lol.
  • All the “care” hugs Sesame gave me last week.
  • My students willingness to participate and be engaged this semester.
  • My new meditation dvd. I only got to use it once last week, but I can tell it’s going to be a life changer for me.
  • Sleep
Did you accomplish all your goals last week? What are your goals this week?


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Raising an Advocate: Prejudice and Parenting

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As promised here’s the next post in the Raising an Advocate series! If this is your first time here, I recommend starting from beginning here.

Here are the ground rules for the series:

1. This series is open to everyone who wants to truly learn and create positive dialogue that will help us educate our children on all -isms.

2. Comments will be disabled on blog posts to insure that people are not able to hide behind “anonymous” screen names. If you want to participate in the conversation, there will be a pinned thread on the Mamademics FB page each week for dialogue.

3. Comments that are blatantly rude or condescending will be removed and the poster may be blocked from leaving comments in the future.

4. Belittling of commenters will not be tolerated. We are all sharing personal experiences and they shouldn’t be invalidated in anyway.

5. That being said I encourage everyone to challenge themselves to move beyond your personal experience and ask yourself if this is something that happened due to one individual/group of people or because of a larger institution/system of oppression.

6. This one is just a suggestion, but if you’re not going to blog along with me I encourage you to purchase a journal, so you can keep track of your ideas.

In the first post in this series, I focused on a time when I realized I held a prejudice. I spent some time focusing on how I’ve worked to change those privileges and how I hope my son will never find himself displaying prejudice in that manner. This post piggybacks on that one.

I’m sure we can all agree that we prejudge people all the time based on the way they look or how they speak or even simply what they are wearing. On the second day of class, I put my students in small groups and had them do an activity where they found five things they all had in common and then a list of five things that were unique to one person in the group. I stipulated that these things could not be superficial things that we could figure out simply by looking at the person like hair color for example. I also stipulated that they not tell us who each thing applied to on the unique list and the other people in the class had to guess who it applied too. My goals were two-fold: First, I wanted all the students to understand that no matter how different we are we are still connected in some way, and I wanted to show how we prejudge people based on how they look or how they speak. I wanted them to challenge why they felt certain unique qualities applied to that particular person. The activity went really well for the most part and it got them talking about race, gender, sexuality, and age all on the second day of class.

That class session and a news article I posted shortly after the last post in this series sparked me to focus on how our prejudices factor into our parenting. If you follow Mamademics on FB you may have saw a story I posted recently about a young boy who was tortured and eventually killed by his mother and her boyfriend. Sad news stories like these are becoming more commonplace, but what made this story stand out for me was the fact that they did this because they “thought” he was gay. This young boy was brutalized by the person who was supposed to love and protect him because he wasn’t “masculine” enough. Essentially his mother carried her prejudice so far into her parenting that her son is no longer on this earth.

I know you’re probably saying this case is extreme and it’s possible to disagree with homosexuality while still being a good parent. I would ask you to be honest with yourself about your ability to love and protect a gay child if you strongly oppose homosexuality. Will their partner be welcome in your home? Or will you ask them to keep their “lifestyle” out of your home? What if your child is transgender will you treat them the same as your other children?  Be honest with yourself.

In my opinion, allowing any of your prejudices to go unchecked will trickle down into your parenting. People always say that children aren’t born with prejudice, so how does it happen? It can’t all fall on the media or outside influences because while those things happen in some ways it will still fall back on the parent. It may not always be direct, but it will happen subtly. Your children will hear the things you say to your husband/wife/partner about an individual or a television show and they’ll take it in without ever saying anything. It may be as simple as preventing them from watching a television show not because of violence or sex, but because there are same sex parents on the show. Maybe you stop them from playing with neighborhood kids because you feel uncomfortable for whatever reason, but you never give them a clear reason why. It can be as simple as you locking your doors quickly when in a “not-so-nice” neighborhood (yes, I do this as well) and I know that I will have to struggle with how to explain to my son that I want us to be safe, but I don’t want him to judge all people from those neighborhoods. Heck, I’m from those neighborhoods…

Or you may be uncomfortable with your son watching a show that’s deemed “girly.” Sesame recently learned how to choose his own shows on our Netflix app and sometimes he clicks on the Barbie show. It bugged me because the voices are annoying (why are the voices on some of these kids shows like nails on a chalkboard?), but my husband was a bit uncomfortable with it because he’s a boy and it’s Barbie. I kept reminding him that it’s no big deal and if we make a big deal out of it he’ll start picking up on it. He’s only 2.5 at the moment, but can you imagine what would happen once he’s in school and a male classmate mentions watching Barbie? He might potentially tell him that it’s a girl show and boys don’t watch those shows. It could lead to him making fun of the boy and others in the class joining in? Or if we continue showing him that there are no “boy” and “girl” only shows, he may be the kid who stands up for the one being teased.

No matter who you are it’s important that you sit down and ask yourself– what effect do my prejudices have on my parenting? How are you working to change it?

Let’s continue the conversation here: Prejudice and Parenting

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Mind Right Monday: Just Keep Swimming…

Happy Monday! It’s time for another Mind Right Monday link-up hosted by yours truly, Dani from Ok, Dani and Reese from Reese and CocoJust make a post that includes 1) your GOALS for the week and 2) what you’re GRATEFUL for, and BOOM You’re Done!! Oh and link up your post at the end… (If your post doesn’t meet those two requirements, it will be deleted)

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Alright, so let’s go back and see how I did with last week’s goals… (technically two weeks ago)

  • Work out three times a week. (Close… 2.5)
  • Drink 64 oz of water every single day (5 out of 7 days)
  • Use my planner (Partially DONE)
  • Email my advisor about a meeting because I’m still stuck in this slump (Still Fail)
  • Finish outstanding orders for Hook Smart and mail them out. (DONE)
  • Blog twice (FAIL)
  • Start working on my next Raising an Advocate series post (Draft)
  • Wake up before Sesame at least three times this week (DONE)
  • Finish lesson plans for next two weeks (Kinda DONE)
  • Figure out new learning resources for Sesame (DONE)
  • SURVIVE the first week back of in person teaching (DONE actually two weeks)

This week’s goals…

  • Write a “honesty hour” post (journal/blog) about my writing slump.
  • Email my advisor even if I don’t write anything because I need help.
  • Work out three times a week.
  • Try out my new meditation dvd.
  • Finish the next post in the Raising an Advocate series.
  • Work on Hook Smart items for Type-A Conference.
  • Menu plan for two weeks.
  • Clean our bedroom (it’s a DISASTER)

I am grateful for…

  • Two wonderful weeks of in-person teaching
  • Getting adequate rest most of last week
  • Feeling like I’ve found my “purpose”
  • The love Mr. S and Sesame show me daily
  • My mom
  • My sisters… I miss them a lot…
  • A hobby that also makes me money
  • Great friends who always encourage me
  • My uncle

Are you getting your mind right this week? Link up…

 


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